Ideally (and maybe one day in the future), anyone of any background could adopt whichever lifestyle they connected to most - without fear of being shamed for their preferences. Ideally, anyone living in their truth could be accepted and applauded. Ideally, unapologetic self-expression would be valued regardless of skin color. In reality - as history has shown time and again - people with brown skin are often forced to assimilate into "white" society and maintain behavior that is non-threatening, placid, and subservient. They are abused, criticized, rejected, or ridiculed for embracing and demonstrating pride in their own culture. In reality, print and television media have - for decades - used "aggressive" as a code word for "dangerous" to describe bold, brave, confident, daring, and outspoken people of color. (Dangerous how? Dangerous to whom?) The context and tone of this coded language works in different ways toward different audiences, and is just one layer of the cultural biases that affect brown-skinned non-white people in America every single day. Meanwhile, through the years white people have gleefully mimicked Black language and behavior and indignantly rebelled against any attempts to correct them. This struggle is real.
books i've written:
SEX ACTS AND EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
WE ARE THE WARLORDS
THIS IS GROWING UP
CHASING A BOY UP A HILL