Why Do Men Cock Block Women?

If you aren’t dicking her down you got no say in how, where, or from whom she gets her needs met.

Women may be the fairer sex – anatomically much more pleasing on the eyes – but men are easily more emotionally demanding and sensitive.

Shit Or Get Off The Pot.

I’ve noticed an uninteresting pattern of behavior some men seem unable to outgrow: Indecision cum Immobility. This shit aint cute.

To be clear I don’t care for this trait in anybody – man or women. We should all be constantly trying to grow and improve. We should always push ourselves out of our comfort zones, and push harder to get outside of our more familiar behaviors.

For instance, I’ve never really been gracious or patient with other people’s emotional needs. I run a very short fuse for overly dependent people. I struggle to mask my disdain for emotional vulnerability. So I’m working on my endurance; reminding myself that God is inside all of us in different ways and at different times we all need some compassion and understanding.

I don’t have to have all the compassion in the world for everyone in the world all of the time because I’m simply not that perfect. But in the little moments in my life where I can feel someone’s need I can extend an extra few minutes of patience and peace. Maybe I can even soften my speech. I can try anyway.

Men, tho. WYD?

Why do some men just want to keep a woman and nothing else? Why do they flirt with a woman, tease her, deny her either sex or commitment (or both), and then sulk when she spends time with someone else? Why do they intrude on, pry into, or try to sabotage her romantic efforts elsewhere?

Do men really think that complaining or criticising women’s choices is a turn on? When did nagging become an aphrodisiac?

What fresh hell…

Everyone Likes Some Attention.

Look, if you a like a broad and you think she likes you chances are you’re exchanging vibes. She shows interest, you show some. You give each other a little special attention. Maybe you even go out on a few dates. Cute.

If you want more attention, if you want to keep it going, if you maybe even want all of her attention then just follow through. Do not flatter yourself by trying the cat-and-mouse hard-to-get angle. Do not think she needs to prove endurance for bullshit before you can muster commitment.

No one wants to commit to bullshit, bro. With the ascension of the Kardashian Matriarchy, women know a lot better now than to chase after a man, or to put up with non-sense from someone who is neither her husband or baby daddy.

Women like to have their attention returned. Don’t waste what you get because when you lose a good woman’s focus you’re not very likely to get it back.

If you’re not putting in work
you’re getting cut.

Say you’re friends with a woman. And she’s incredible; smart, funny, caring, kind. But you’re not sure if you should make a move… Ah well, your hesitation is your loss. If you can see her beauty and charisma, guess what, other people will see it too. Shoot your shot or forfeit.

If you push her away because you can’t handle your attraction, because you doubt yourself, because you’re afraid you don’t deserve her, then you’re right – you don’t deserve her. Let her go.

Alternatively, If you’re over the age of 17 and you think it’s appropriate to mask your attraction with teasing and unsolicited criticism I’m going to have to ask you to take a seat and call your mother. Grow up.

It’s unfair and realistic to expect anyone – man or woman – to engage in endless game playing just because you’re afraid of being alone. It’s not healthy, and it’s unkind to both parties involved.

We are all deserving of love and affection. We are magical light beings and we were meant for more than the ego’s ongoing tug-of-war.

MEN NEED LOTS OF ATTENTION

You know how when men cat-call you, you ignore them they curse at you? That’s male fragility manifested as toxic masculinity and operating at the lowest possible frequency.

When a guy has female attention but doesn’t know how to appreciate it he plays games. And when he doesn’t get the attention he wants he lashes out. This is bad behavior and bad behavior must not be rewarded.

When someone new shows interest in a woman he’s ignored, a man gets jealous and territorial – like an animal – giving into his baser nature. Men cockblock women out of confusion, insecurity, and the need to not be forgotten. It’s not cute. It’s childish. It’s toddler behavior.

IT’S BASIC AF.

Men: if you care for a woman, if you want her then tell her as much. And when you’ve made it clear and plain and told her outright that she’s the one you want then step the fuck up to the plate and lay the pipe as often as humanly possible.

And be nice. This is not Ibsen’s Dollhouse.

Quit being condescending, quit talking down to and underestimating women. We’re never going to evolve the species if one half of the equation is always trying to suppress the other.

If you can not use your words, if you can not go after the woman you want, or level up to a place of maturity and exalt the divinity in others then at the very least keep your mouth shut about her affairs and decision to seek satisfaction for needs you were not willing to fulfill.

Post Originally Published: April 23rd, 2018

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